Requesting a Reality Check...

Don't know to start but this all came about from a friend of mine telling me today she will not be going to DragonCon (when she months ago confirmed she was going). Instead she wants to visit one of our friends in Nebraska. She feels guilty spending money on D*C when this friend wants her to visit (to the point where she is buying her a plane ticket to fly out to Neb.). It is cool w/ me- just so she gave me some weeks notice to increase my and everyone else' hotel room budget for D*C but this is what gets me w/ about our friend in Nebraska (I know- I must be horrible talking about it here)-

Her and her husband have been at Offut AFB now for about 3 yrs or so and have a 1yr child. He is being deployed for a second time. She does not work and complains she has no friends and the base offers nothing to do (her husband is an Officer). Last time he deployed she spent the entire time w/ family in another state (don't know if she knows this but once the kid turns school-age this will no longer be an option) but cannot do that this time. (time away is about 3-4 months). Now I am very luckily that Chris hasn't faced this. I admire those who do. However, I feel she is being a bit dramatic here. Everytime your spouse is deployed you can't run to family or fly your friends up to visit. Or is that what people do?? It is confusing since she herself was a military kid. Not that Offut is a kickn' area but thousands upon thousands of spouses deal w/ this every day. IMO, due to some mass friend emails of late from her, I feel she is out of touch- she fed her kid a bananna muffin w/ cream cheese icing while everyone else ate cake for his 1yr birthday party. She refuses to fly w/ an infant- which is why she is buying the plane fare for her firend to fly there rather than her and baby fly here (I told her do it now- it is much easier now than w/ a toddler). Ya know if the kid was older hewould be feeding off all this depression and loniless (not saying he isn't now). I say that because since it is very possible we will be moving, I have vowed to be as active as I can so Corey has every opportunity to embrace his new surrondings. The parents set the example, right?